A lot of people are
confused by bdsm, in today’s society; we see any form of hitting a woman as
abuse even if she deserved it. I bet a
lot of you are saying “whoa” Deserved it how can any woman deserve to be
hit?
Well guess what many of
these poor abused women give the truly abused a bad name. I have see scores of women buck up tot heir husbands
or significant others and hit them, attack them, follow them around saying horrible
insulting things and any one of these things can be, for lack of a better term, “consent to
combat.’
On a side note here I
recently had an altercation with a neighbor I used to pay to clean my house for
me and had to fire for being a thief.
This was right before Johnny moved in.
I hired this girl not because I needed her to clean my house but I felt
sorry for her family and the way they lived and wanted a reason to give them
money. I did not understand at the time
that some people no matter how young and desperate do make there own beds and
prefer to lie in them.
So basically the shit hit
the fan Johnny moves in and one of the young men who “hung out” at he house(it
was a house of four teenage girls run by a drugged out granny) He was 16 and when Johnny drove by he threw a brick
at the car and proceeded to pull a knife on him. Johnny took the knife and finished the bad scene
I got myself into by helping someone.
There is a point I
promise.
Anyway the police
arrested the boy because he provoked the “altercation” and the nice police
officer told him that if they are calling names and such they provoked it, even with only their mouth. I cannot remember what he called the
law. Basically the cop was telling him
if it happens again do it again you are covered. Needless to say it never happened again.
I share all of this
because many women do this very thing and then cry victim when in fact they are
the one who provoked it words are weapons as much as fists.
It is so nonsensical to
me that our society only sees women as victims of domestic violence and if you
hit a woman even in self defense it is considered abuse.
The Bdsm community is labeled
as abusive because women do get hit, to what degree is dependant on the man and
woman and what ever consents they have agreed upon. That is what separates it from abuse, that
little word, consent.
When a woman is abused
she did not ask for it, did not know it was coming and never dreamed it would
happen. BDSM is not abuse.
However there is another
aspect of this that I think I will touch on.
Many women seek out abusive men not because they want to be abused but
because they are submissive and want what submissives have and get instead get
stuck with some crazy sick-o who is going to hurt, use, alienate them and
destroy them which is exactly the opposite of what a dominant male does.
Dominant men look for
women they can mold, shape and uplift into anything they want them to be and
they seek out ladies who want to be exactly that. I have watched overweight ladies shed all of their
weight and become lithe little vixens (one woman actually lost 200 pounds
because he master saw in her exactly what she wanted to be.) I have seen ladies finish school. Slobs become neat-niks, sad women become
happy, women who thought they were losers running their own show.
How did they get there? Through
physical and psychological manipulation, rewards and discipline. I have never met a collared submissive who
was a failure at anything.
In all BDSM there is extreme
trust, trust that even surpasses that of a vanilla relationship. The Submissive or slave often trusts her “Master”
with her very life.
BDSM is all about
bettering the submissive and when a subby sees all the accomplishment that she
gets through rewards, punishment and success worship is inevitable. The master
takes pride in his creation.
On a side note pain also
brings on an adrenaline rush much like what extreme sport junkies get. It is a high and is addictive and once you
reach that place in your head, that subspace you can and will do anything and
feel no pain even as you are being lashed.
Also I am a slave not a
submissive, the difference being that a submissive gives consent every time and
may only be a part timer or is in it for the “play”.
A slave gives consent
only once and lives her choice every minute of her life. Being pleasing is what pleases me.
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Excellent post!!!!!
There is release in submission[HEART]
I have seen so many women abuse their partners, verbally and physically, but it's not considered "abuse" unless it's a male doing it. The law laughs at the men who complain, even if their lives are threatened.
Abuse is abuse, and consent is consent, period, end of story.
My husband is definitely a "Dominant Male". Even though I don't consider myself naturally a submissive, I do have some submissive tendencies, but I also like to be very sassy and challenging as well. I like the give and take of constantly changing roles, like where one partner can be dominant in some situations and totally submissive in other situations. My husband wants to be dominant all the time so therein lies some issues.... [COOL]
I think I was seriously abused and raped in past lives, so the physical aspect of BDSM does not appeal to me AT ALL... it just brings me mentally somewhere that I just cannot go anymore, it's not therapeutic, it just is scary and a turnoff to me, even in the most boringly vanilla level. Still, I have friends who enjoy it, so I say, "whatever floats your boat", just as I expect people to respect my weird and acharacteristic preoccupation with celibacy [LOL]
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